But the bottom of the line is, the reason why your relationship ended is because your girlfriend’s lost attraction for you. No, it wasn’t because you left your dirty laundry around the house or that it’s “her, not you…”, it’s because the foundation of her attraction for you faded, and it’s your fault. Though there are ways you can “re-attract” your girlfriend (and I’ll get to that in a second), you have to first understand why she dumped you. Only then will you know how you can get her back.

This is what I like to call The Six Deadly Relationship Sins. Now, I’m not saying that you committed all of these mistakes, but chances are you probably exhibited at least one of these characteristics that pretty much forced your girlfriend to leave you (even if she’s claimed that she left you for another reason).

deadly sin 1 – being too controlling

Women are repelled by men that put unrealistic restraints on their lives. Though asserting your dominance in a relationship is important, you have to know exactly when “enough is enough”. If you don’t, then don’t be surprised that your girlfriend or wife left you.

deadly sin 2 – seeking validation from your girlfriend

What does this mean? It means that you constantly seek your girlfriend’s approval. Asking questions like, “Do you love me? Do think I’m fit enough? Is my penis big enough for you? Did you have a good time?” repels women. It conveys that you aren’t confident or good enough… which reeks of insecurity.

deadly sin 3 – being jealous

Were you jealous that she was flirting with other guys? Maybe she was hanging out with a guy friend that you felt a little suspicious about… Well, if you did exhibit this emotion, then again, don’t be surprised if your girlfriend loses attraction for you. Jealousy is the ultimate form of insecurity.

how to get her back

So now that you know some of the ways you fucked up, should you try to undo the damage and get her back? Probably not, but you know your situation better than I do.

The key to winning her back is attraction, but how do you go about “re-attracting” your ex?

Well, it starts with employing some powerful psychological techniques. Yes, even if things seem completely hopeless right now, you can get her back if you know what you’re doing.

You see, what a lot of men do when they get dumped is start acting like complete bitches. They’ll start asking for forgiveness and begging for second chances. If you’re guilty of one of these mistakes, then you better watch the free informational video at the link below… because chances are you’re doing something right now that is pushing your ex girlfriend further and further away, and into the arms of another man.

Do yourself a favor and check out the free video below. In it, you’ll learn exactly how to get your ex girlfriend back as soon as possible… as well as the other deadly sins.

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You just have to understand the secret to the female psychology.

If you’re reading this and still want your ex girlfriend back, then absorb the information on this page very carefully. In it are secrets to the female mind that most men will go to the grave having never learned.

1.) don’t get jealous 

Jealousy reeks of insecurity and this is the number one killer of attraction. If you are the jealous kind of person, then at least kill the urge to show this emotion around your ex-girlfriend.

2.) give her space 

Yes, this seems a little hard and counter-intuitive, but leaving her alone is one of the best ways of actually getting her back into your life. That said, you have to do it in a very specific way. Simply not talking to her won’t do it. You have to talk to her subconscious while conveying that you are completely over her right now.

3.) recover emotionally 

I know you’re rattled that your ex-girlfriend dumped you, but there’s nothing you can do or say right now that will make her love you again. You cannot negotiate desire.

The more you force the issue with her, the less likely she’s going to want to get back together with you. Winning your ex-girlfriend back is going to have to start with you. That means you need to stop pining for her and get your life back on track.

• Start working out more.
• Start picking up some good hobbies.
• Start hanging out with friends.

Create an interesting life you can invite her back into and you’ll be well on your to getting her back into your arms and maybe your bed.

4.) start dating other women 

This is your secret weapon. By dating other women, you’re killing two birds with one stone. First, dating other women is one of the best ways to help you get over your ex-girlfriend. And second, if your ex finds out that you’re having success with other women, she may question her judgement in leaving you. She’ll once again see as the high-value man that she can’t afford to lose! (you are a high-value man, right?)

5.) begin to re-attract her 

Once you’ve accomplished steps 1-4, the stage has been set for you to begin the re-attraction process.

But just because you can, doesn’t necessarily mean you should.

That said, you know your situation better than I do. So if you want to how to give yourself the best chance of winning your ex-girlfriend back, watch the free informational video at the link below. Either way, I salute and wish you the best. Godspeed!

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Don’t feel too bad. Feminine women in particular are emotional creatures and therefore do things that don’t make sense to hyper-logical men. Not passing judgement, just stating facts.

That said, I know this knowledge provides scant comfort for your oh-so tender, broken heart. I get it. So here are three things you can do to man up and pull yourself back together.

1.) do a relationship retrospective

Provided you’ve allowed yourself time to grieve and are thinking somewhat straight, the first thing to do post-breakup is to document what you’ve learned from the relationship. If you haven’t learned something about yourself and women in the course of a relationship, you are doing it wrong. I come away from each of my relationships with experiences and practices that I take to make my next relationships even better.

I write my retrospectives using a notepad app on my phone, but you can use pen and paper if you prefer. Make separate documents for each relationship, with each containing two parts.

what positive things did you learn?

First, document all the things you’ve learned during the course of the relationship that enriched your life. These could be practical things like meals or apps your ex-girlfriend introduced you to that are now a regular part of your life.

Better yet, these are specific things she did that you liked or turned you on. For example, I learned that it really turns me on when my girl hugs me from behind or tells me when I’m doing something she likes.

what could have been done better?

Second, document all of the mistakes you made during the relationship, so you can make a conscious effort to be a better man in your next relationship. Those who do not learn from the past are condemned to repeat it!

You can bitch and moan all you want about how your ex should’ve been more patient with you, but she doesn’t owe you shit. Women lose attraction if they feel like they have to mother their man, so don’t put her in that position. Become the best version of yourself. If that’s still not enough, then she isn’t good for you anyway.

2.) give up ALL hope of reconciliation

Face it, she’s just not that into you. She broke up with you, so she obviously doesn’t value you very much and isn’t scared of losing you. Why would you want to be with a person like this?

Holding out hope for a change of heart is recipe for needless suffering and mental anguish. You documented what you learned from that relationship, now it’s time to accept that it’s over and fully move on.

• Don’t pine for her
• Don’t beat yourself up
• Don’t social media stalk her!

Yes, there is a slight chance your ex will come crawling back, but this will only be more likely if she senses that you have moved on. You can’t fake this. You need to 100% give up all hope. See the quote below from The 48 Laws of Power, which I HIGHLY recommend checking out.

Law 36: “Disdain things you cannot have: ignoring them is the best revenge.” – The 48 Laws of Power

Further, in the rare event that she comes back (don’t get your hopes up!), she will be more likely to stay if you have done the work from your retrospective and have therefore grown as a man. Otherwise, the reason the relationship ended before will likely bring on a repeat performance.

3.) cultivate an abundance of prospects

If you find yourself obsessively stewing over this one girl, it’s likely because you don’t have enough options. There are likely THOUSANDS of attractive women in your vicinity. Why would you allow your heart to be twisted in knots over ONE who dumped you!?

How you go about doing this is a whole other blog post… or book! Suffice to say, at a high level there are essentially two things you need to do on a regular basis:

• Become the best version of yourself
• Put yourself in locations where your ideal prospects go

Iterate on these two things and you will have massively increased the surface area for chance encounters with attractive women to stick. Never allow yourself to be in a position where your only option is a woman who values you so little that she walked away.

but, what if she’s “the one”

Look, you know your situation better than I do. If you feel like everything I wrote above doesn’t apply in your case and you just want to know how to give yourself the best chance of getting your girl back, then watch the video at the link below.

Either way, I salute and wish you the best. God knows it’s not easy being a man in the cutthroat modern dating scene!

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In this post, I’ll touch on why sleep matters, how it affects us physically and mentally, and how the ChiliSleep Cube Sleep System helped me get the best sleep of my life!

the importance of sleep

Sleep is more than just downtime; it’s when our bodies and minds undergo crucial repair and regeneration. Here’s why it matters:

1. physical health:

Sleep is essential for our bodies to repair tissues, regulate metabolism, and support immune function. Skimping on sleep can lead to serious health issues like obesity, heart disease, and diabetes.

2. mental health:

Sleep plays a significant role in regulating our mood, managing stress, and promoting emotional well-being. Poor sleep can contribute to anxiety, depression, and other mental health challenges.

3. cognitive function:

Sleep is crucial for learning, memory consolidation, and decision-making. Quality sleep enhances our cognitive abilities, creativity, and problem-solving skills, while lack of sleep impairs focus, attention, and reaction times.

4. overall well-being:

Quality sleep contributes to our overall sense of vitality, energy, and resilience. It allows us to wake up feeling refreshed and ready to tackle the day ahead, improving our quality of life in every aspect.

how to get the best sleep of your life

You know that feeling when you turn over a pillow to the “cool” side? It feels so refreshing doesn’t it? Well, imagine if your whole mattress could stay like that… all night long! Enter the ChiliSleep Cube Sleep System—an innovative solution designed to pretty much do just that, dramatically enhancing your sleep quality!

1. temperature regulation:

As alluded to above, the ChiliSleep Cube Sleep System lets you customize your bed’s temperature to your liking. Whether you prefer to sleep cool or cozy, it ensures your sleep environment is just right for a restful night’s sleep.

2. enhanced comfort:

With its water-based technology, the ChiliSleep Cube provides a supportive sleep surface that contours to your body, promoting spinal alignment and reducing pressure points. It’s like sleeping on a cloud—comfortable and luxurious.

3. improved sleep quality:

By creating an optimal sleep environment, the ChiliSleep Cube Sleep System enhances sleep quality and duration. You’ll experience deeper, more restorative sleep cycles, saying goodbye to restless nights and hello to rejuvenating slumber.

4. increased energy and vitality:

Quality sleep is essential for maintaining energy levels and cognitive function. With the ChiliSleep Cube, you’ll wake up feeling refreshed, revitalized, and ready to seize the day ahead—no more groggy mornings or midday slumps.

5. personalized sleep experience:

The ChiliSleep Cube Sleep System offers a personalized sleep experience, allowing you to customize temperature settings and adapt to your unique sleep preferences. Whether you’re a hot sleeper or prefer a cooler environment, it caters to your needs for a perfect night’s sleep.

conclusion

We spend roughly a third of our lives in bed. Isn’t it worth investing in maximizing your comfort as well as the profound benefits sleep provides? With the ChiliSleep Cube Sleep System, you can optimize your sleep environment and unlock the full potential of restorative sleep. Say goodbye to sleepless nights and hello to the rejuvenating power of the ChiliSleep Cube Sleep System — I know I did!

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My ab muscles and bicep veins became visible.

As someone who had struggled with his weight since childhood, these things just didn’t seem to be in my reality. You see, I exercised regularly and probably ate healthier than most and yet I never seem to see any results. I attributed this to “bad genetics”. That is, until three years ago.

And you know what’s perhaps even more impressive? The fifty pounds I lost never came back.

how I lost 50 pounds in 1 month

Three years ago, something traumatic happened and caused me to completely lose my appetite for about 2 weeks. I’d have my morning cup of coffee and just pace around my condo while drinking it, my mind racing. Finally, by around 11am, I’d have a couple of eggs and maybe a piece of breakfast meat. Dinner would be whatever I felt like, without going overboard on portions or carbs.

Just two weeks of that and my clothes were already significantly looser. I month in and I went from a tight 36″ waist to a loose 31″ waist

This’s when I started to notice my abs. It sounds lame, but I actually spent hours looking at myself in the mirror, because I couldn’t believe it was real. In fact, part of me was scared shitless that I was just going to put the weight right back on, as soon as my appetite returned.

I was determined to not let this happen. It turns out that seeing tangible results can reveal an inner resolve you didn’t know you had!

how I kept the weight off

Three years later, I can still see my muscles. I’m still a size 31″ waist.

There’s no doubt that daily exercise is a big factor in my ongoing success. I do cross-fit and/or yoga pretty much every day. Furthermore, most of what I like to do for fun is active.

That said, I lost the weight and saw my abs BEFORE I started doing cross-fit or yoga.

In fact, I’ve gone to the gym and been active my whole adult life and never saw much change. That’s why I attribute my success mostly to diet.

my healthy diet principles

Let’s get into some light theory. When you wake up, your body is in fat-burning mode, since you haven’t eaten for 8 or more hours. However, as soon as you eat carbs, your body exits fat burning mode. Therefore, I wanted to delay eating carbs as long as possible.

Furthermore, there are reasons to believe certain carbs are worse than others. I’m not going to go down that rabbit hole here, but suffice to say I decided to stay away from grains and sugars as much as possible, while allowing myself limited amounts of starchy root vegetables and fruits.

So given these principles, it would seem that perhaps breakfast IS the most important meal of the day.

the best breakfast for fat-loss and muscle growth

You’ll recall from my story above, that coffee for breakfast was what seemingly started it all for me. I had not yet heard of intermittent fasting at the time, but was essentially practicing it since I didn’t eat until around 11am.

As my appetite returned, I started tweaking this central component of my diet so that I’m now adding the following three ingredients to my Puerto Rican coffee every morning:

• heavy cream – has zero carbs (sugars) unlike most other creamers
• collagen peptides – provides muscle-building protein along with skin and joint support
• creatine monohydrate – intermittent fasting can lead to losing muscle mass, so I added this to counter act this

Pro tip: I highly recommend using a frother for the cream. It makes the cream seem sweeter without adding any sugar!

I’ll follow my coffee up with my first real meal of the day at around 12:30pm; fried eggs with some type of nitrate-free breakfast meat. You’ll notice I still haven’t really had any carbs so I can potentially stay in fat-burning mode until dinner!

conclusion

That sexy body you always wanted IS accessible to you. If nothing else, just try my go-to breakfast out for yourself. In just a few weeks, you may be surprised by what you see in the mirror!

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Unfortunately though, testosterone levels generally decline gradually as men age, taking it’s benefits with it as it goes.

how to boost your testosterone naturally

• Lift heavy weights – (squats in particular trigger the release of testosterone and human growth hormone)
• Get plenty of sleep
• Maintain a healthy body weight
• Manage stress levels
• Limit alcohol intake

If you have everything above handled and your testosterone levels are still not where you want them to be, you are probably considering other more drastic measures. Testosterone replacement therapy (TRT) in particular is becoming more widely used.

Although, TRT has proven to be immensely valuable to countless men, it is not without it’s downsides. In my mind the biggest of these is that once you start TRT, you will likely need to rely on the treatment for the rest of your life.

supplements to boost your testosterone naturally

This is why I when I heard of some promising natural supplements that help boost your testosterone, I was excited to try them. The first one I tried was Tongkat Ali, a long used herbal supplement in Malaysia.

It just so happened that I had my bloodwork done just before I started taking Tongkat Ali and then had it checked again about 9 months in. I was hoping to see at least a modest increase in my testosterone levels, but I was blown away by the results. My total testosterone levels increased by 43% to over 1000 ng/dL!

The success of Tongkat Ali got me interested in another testosterone boosting supplement promoted by Andrew Huberman, Fadogia Agrestis. I have not yet gotten my bloodwork done since I started, so I’m not 100% sure if this supplement will provide a further boost for me.

my dosage

Tongkat Ali – One capsule (400 mg) daily with my morning coffee with no formal schedule for cycling off.

Fadogia Agrestis – One capsule (300 mg) daily with lunch, which is half the dose recommended by Huberman. However, my preference is find the minimum effective dose, versus maxing out.

how to boost your testosterone naturally

In my experience, Tongkat Ali fully qualifies as some cool shit that actually works! I’m hopeful that Fadogia Agrestis will prove to be as well!

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It’s thing you didn’t know you needed, until you got one. IT. WAS. LIFECHANGING.

Of course, bidets like this have been common place in Japan for DECADES. When they visit the states they’re probably thinking everyone here has dirty butts! I mean, if there were mud on your arm, would you really just wipe it with toilet paper?

Anyway, since then I’ve tried many bidet attachments and one of the biggest annoyances you run into, is that they tend to make the toilet seat uneven and unstable. Not exactly conducive for getting your business done!

They have some that are integrated with the seat itself which definite helps. However, I recently upgraded to a skirted toilet and none of the bidet attachments I tried fit right.

That was until I found the Samodra Ultra-Slim Bidet Attachment.

The best bidet attachment

As the name suggests, the Samodra Ultra-Slim Bidet Attachment is ultra-slim so you can slip it under the seat that comes with your toilet. I can’t say enough about this bidet attachment and bidet attachments in general. In fact, I’ve stocked up a couple extra just in-case the one I have breaks and the toilet paper hoarders get wise to these and go on rampage!

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Final Tip

If there is one downside to becoming one of the enlightened ones, it’s that leaving your “home throne” can tend to make travel a substandard experience. This can be mitigated to some extent with a travel bidet, but it’s obviously not the same. Perhaps you should plan your next vacation to Japan, the motherland of this simple, but lifechanging gadget!

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